I bet you are “dying”to know more about me 😉 right?…Just kidding.But I think I’ll share a few facts that maybe people don’t know about me
and it sometimes cost a little confusion to our relationships.. They will be honest, most reliable and truthful cause they came straight from me 🙂
Fact 1 : I’m Polish. Born and raised there. Lived there for 29 years, then moved here… I finished all levels of education in Poland… last one was the University of Agriculture in the city of Wroclaw. My major was”food processing ” :0… sounds a little exotic… I know, every time I tell people that, they look at me a little strange because it doesn’t really say much about what it is. Well, there are engineering studies about different technologies to make different foods, for example: milk and all dairy products, meats, sodas, beers, bread ext. 5 long years of intensive studies to learn certain processes from the beginning to the end. I always loved chemistry and back then I very much wanted to work in a lab. It was an interesting, white apron, clean job. Unfortunately chemistry wasn’t the only classes I had to take. There was this one called “physical chemistry” and it very efficiently thwarted my plans. The class took two years and I couldn’t say what it was about and still can’t. Lectures and lab works were a pure nightmare. I consider myself an intelligent person and always knew that two plus two is four, but I didn’t understand even one class. And then there was this awful, mean professor who didn’t take any time to explain any of that…stuff. I guess I was lucky(!) to somehow pass the test. Based on that ( and many others) experience, I slowly lost interest to study and instead of learning, reading and remembering, I was sliding through my classes and passed tests with a lot of help from others. Not a proud moment. I ended up dropping out of the regular program on my 4th year and went to work. I think I was always a man of action rather than a student. I thought it’s better to have an experience in actual work than just in knowledge. At the end of the day, I like to feel tired and see the results right away rather than learn hundreds of books by heart. I want It here and now! Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I have a million ideas per minute?Hhhmmm….don’t know. I lose interest in one and move to the next one…. So.. I’m not a patient person. Never was and still not am.But I’m working on it. I know it’s a very useful skill to have.
Eventually, I ended up finishing my classes going by a weekend program for 1 year. I passed the final exam and I officially have a degree in engineering… uufff
Fact 2: I generally like people and I am a loyal friend.
I always have luck to meet good people…..
The trick is I either like someone from the beginning or not. The maybe is rare.. I can’t really explain it further and it’s mostly vibes I receive from people that has anything to do with it. Everybody has different personalities, mine is a little sophisticated and not everyone can/ wants to deal with it.Fair. The same here. I also feel if people like me or not..this is how it works.Right? I have a history of making mistakes in this matter, but mostly I know right away if I want to meet the person again or not. Period.
Fortunately, I like way more people than I dislike, but to be my best friend is a step up 🙂 Truth be told, I have only a few best friends.. One of them lives in Poland with her family and I see her only once or twice a year. It’s been 14 years that we live like that and each minute is a treasure. Every time we talk is like we just finished yesterday and now continue the conversation. No awkward moments. It’s fantastic. One of a kind, and rare. Most of all we can count on each other. So far, more me on her…Remember( ↑) this tough period I had at school ? It’s mostly her who helped me pass all the tests and exams. She pulled me thru classes, let me copy her notes and reports and made sure I appeared at the labs. I owe her big time. And even when we fought, she still managed to watch my back. All this because she wanted it. Besides she is super smart, intelligent and very funny soul and has no time for BS!
My friends like me for who I am…with all my dos and dont’s. I try to be as honest as possible to avoid any confusion. Sometimes I hear that I’m not friendly, rude and behaving like queen bee . I say, I’m super shy! Really! I’m not a talker, and I don’t need people around me, so I don’t have a natural instinct to throw myself at people at first sight ( just recently I tried that once and I think the girl is scared for life :)). But I’m funny, I genuinely care not to hurt anybody’s feelings, I’m helpful and loyal. When or if someone betrays my trust, I don’t forget.There was a few work related situations with “mean”girls, where I had to put my pride aside and step down to their level to “fit in”. It cost me a lot of frustration and sleepless nights. It wasn’t easy. I usually rather take a separate way towards good energy….. Asta la vista babe! I avoid people who manipulate others, talk behind someone’s back, put others down to feel better about them selves and are just simply stupid. Like loyalty is the most important thing to me in any of my relationships, the stupidity is the worst crime. Everything what’s bad comes from being stupid. I just have no patient for that -remember? Everybody has a right to make mistakes, but learning from them is a skill that not everybody has….I’m sensitive, but on the other hand I don’t need to prove anything to anybody… all my friends know I know everything the best and I’m always right… hahahahahaha… I told you I’m funny! 😉
Fact 3: I’m opinionated.
I find it really hard to express my opinions, since a lot of times people complain that their feelings are hurt… Well, the truth hurts sometimes. But delivered the right way, it may be constructive. I found it that most complainers are people who don’t have ANY views on anything and don’t really understand a lot. An intelligent conversation then is impossible, so they make up twisted, sick stories as their ideas. I had some trouble in the past when I had to explain myself, what I said, what tone, why and what words in specific I used… And let me tell you it was so easy to manipulate me because of my accent….I learned this lesson well and I don’t feel the need anymore to make people hear me out and rarely persuade anybody to my rights. Although I don’t share my views often, I certainly have a strong opinion about a lot of things. But I’m not stubborn. If someone is trying to convince me of something and the arguments are right, I can bend (a little) and consider. To every judgment I have to grow though, like a peach ;)… Having the advantage to live in two countries gives me an opportunity to experience more, and of course I know more than some! Watching TV( could be sometimes misleading), talking to people, having a passion and reading(!) help too. I appreciate talking to someone who has knowledge based on their own studies, than with someone who just repeats someone else’s slogans…We are lucky to be able to have our own opinions, so let’s use this privilege !! Besides I don’t understand people who don’t read…A house with out books is like a garden without flowers. Do you know how much you are missing?! If only some would take a book instead wasting time on BS, it would have an impact on the world, I promise! …I love to read…… but about that later….
to be continued… K